Technology & Dating: Unwritten Rules

Technology is permeating our lives. Everyone seems to have a cell phone, MP3 player, and computer. With so much technology, I guess it should come as no surprise that technology and dating have now become intertwined.

Dating Sites

Dating websites are everywhere. Big internet dating sites like True.com
eHarmony, or Match.com make it seem like millions of people are trying to find their true love through the internet. I may be a little old-fashioned, but technology is only a tool to HELP you get a date. Here are some rules I have observed.

Social Networks

Sites like Facebook and Myspace are the most obvious ways to use a little technology in your social life. Using these sites lets you keep in touch with friends and acquaintances at your convenience. However, the key is moderation.

Text Messaging, Instant Messaging, and "Facebooking"

From experience I have noticed that all technology is not created equal in the dating world. Whether asking a girl on a date, just trying to get to know her better, or saying hi, you want to use the best method. Here is your roadmap for using technology in dating:

• Face-to-face - Always your best bet for any social activity. Worried that your aren't attractive? Deal with it because she'll find out sooner or later.


• Phone call - Provided you actually got her number legitimately this is a great way to go if you tend to get really nervous.


• Text Message - Not as personal as a call, but good for quick info when she's at work or in class.


• Instant Message - If she's online this can be nice since you see what you typed before you hit enter. If used wisely it will keep you from making a fool of yourself.


• "Facebooking" - Be it the annoying "Poke" or a Message, this is good for a quick shout-out or flirting, but not for a date. Be a man and make the call.

Go and Date

Now you know the rules according to Handsome Rob, so give it a try. If you have something to add, leave a comment.

*Disclaimer: I don't know how a text message is different than a message on Facebook, but the ladies seem more accepting of a text message when asking for a date. Go figure.